Most couples aren’t very adventurous in the bedroom. When it comes time to get down in between the sheets, few are bold enough to venture away from traditional standbys like missionary, cowgirl, spooning, doggy style. It doesn’t have to be this way. There are plenty of inventive sex positions that can result in better orgasms for you and your partner, and they don’t (all) involve contorting your body into a pretzel. We have a few suggestions—45 of them, to be exact.
We know 45 is a lot, but don’t be intimidated. Treat this list like a menu. If you’re feeling limber, go ahead and give The Butter Churner a shot. If you don’t like it, move on down the list. Not every position is going to work for every couple. Just because the Wheelbarrow or Heir to the Throne aren’t blowing your minds doesn’t mean Gift Wrapped won’t do the trick. There’s something here for everyone. (If you do happen to stumble upon that magical alignment, find out what your favorite position says about you.)
And don’t forget: Sex positions are only part of the formula for great sex. If you’re having trouble holding it in enough to pull off some of the techniques below, find out how you can last longer in bed. You can thank us in the morning.
1. The Cat
Benefits: Strong clitoral stimulation. In a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who were unable to have an orgasm in the missionary position reported a 56 percent increase in orgasm frequency using the coital alignment technique. Other studies suggest even greater success, with up to 73 percent of women achieving orgasm with CAT.
Technique: The CAT is very similar to the missionary position except your body is positioned farther up and to one side. Instead of being chest to chest, your chest is near her shoulders. Have her bend her legs about 45 degrees to tilt her hips up. This causes the base of your shaft to maintain constant contact with her clitoris.
Also try: Ask her to straighten her legs. Push your pelvis down a few inches while she pushes up.
Hot tip: Instead of thrusting up and down, rock forward and back to (hopefully) provide enough stimulation for her to orgasm. Make this position even better by grinding your pelvis in a circular motion.
Benefits: The blood will rush to your other head too.
Technique: Move to the edge of the bed and lie back with your head and shoulders on the floor as she straddles you. The blood will rush to your head creating mind-blowing sensations upon orgasm.
3. One Up
Benefits: This is the best sex position for women who are particularly sensitive along one side of the clitoris.
Technique: Kneel on the floor with her lying on the edge of the bed. Raise one of her legs and ask her to support her leg by wrapping her hands around her hamstring just below the knee. With one hip raised, she’ll be able to add some movement to aid in your stroking or to help move you to the perfect spot.
Also try: Encourage her to wriggle a little to help you get the rhythm right.
Hot tip: During oral sex allow the knuckle of your finger to trail behind your tongue. The contrast between soft flesh of the tongue and hard bone of the finger will create a pleasing sensation. (For more oral pleasure positions, check out Your Ultimate Guide to Oral Sex.)
Hot tip for her: She can let you know the tongue pressure and technique she prefers by demonstrating with her mouth on your earlobe.
4. The Cowgirl
Benefits: Puts her in control. Great for G-spot stimulation and her orgasm.
Technique: Woman-on-top is one of the best sex positions because it allows for a variety of interesting sights and sensations, and offers her the psychological advantage of taking charge of pace and depth of penetration. Alternate between shallow and deep thrusts. “Shallow will stimulate the front third of the vagina, which is the most sensitive,” says sex therapist Rebecca Rosenblat, author of Seducing Your Man.
Also try: Lie chest to chest, with her stretching her legs out on top of your legs. She should brace her feet on the tops of yours and push off to create a rocking motion that will rub her vulva and clitoral area against your pubic bone for greater pleasure.
Hot tip: It will be easier for her to climax if you stimulate her manually and orally until she is extremely aroused. From the woman-on-top position, have her squat over your face so you can orally stimulate her.
5. The Hot Seat
Benefits: Good G-spot stimulation.
Technique: Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair with your feet on the floor. She turns away and backs up onto you, sitting between your legs. She can ride back and forth by pushing off the chair arms or pressing up with her feet. She can control the angle of entry by arching her back and pressing her buttocks into your groin. While doggy style is about your dominance, The Hot Seat puts her in the driver’s seat. And that makes it one of the best sex positions for both of you.
Also try: She can reach under and stimulate the base of your penis, scrotum, and perineum. Meanwhile, you can reach around and stimulate her nipples.
6. Spin Cycle
Benefits: Extra vibes.
Technique: This is a variation on the Hot Seat with her sitting in your lap, but this time planting yourselves on top of a washing machine set at the highest agitator cycle.
7. Stairway to Heaven
Benefits: Good hand holds for her, and you don’t have to wait until reaching the bedroom.
Technique: This is a variation on the Hot Seat with her sitting on top of you while you sit on one of the stairs of a staircase. Stairs offer good seating possibilities, and a hand rail for extra support and lifting leverage for her.
8. Reverse Cowgirl
Benefits: With a pillow under your head, you get an awesome view of her backside. She can control depth of penetration and pace with this sex position.
Technique: Lie on your back with your legs outstretched. She kneels next to you, then turns and spreads her legs, straddling your hips and facing your feet. Kneeling, she lowers herself onto your penis and begins riding you.
Also try: Have her lean forward or back to change the angle of the penis for greater stimulation.
Hot tip for her: From this position, she can easily reach down to stimulate herself or direct your penis to where it feels best.
9. Pole Position
Benefits: Dual stimulation for her; for you—a great view of her rear and your penis entering her.
Technique: Lie on your back and bend one of your legs, keeping the other outstretched. She straddles the raised leg with a thigh on either side and lowers herself onto your member so that her back is facing you. She should hold your knee and use it for support as she rocks up and down.
Also try: She can press her vulva hard against your upper thigh rubbing as the feeling dictates.
Hot tip for her: From Pole Position, she can massage your raised leg during the action. Or reach down and touch your perineum.
10. Face Off
Benefits: Allows for face-to-face intimacy; cozy for long sessions.
Technique: Sit on a chair or the edge of the bed. She then faces you, wraps her arms around your back, climbs on top, and sits on your lap. Once in the saddle, she can can ride up and down on your penis by pressing with her legs or knees. Want to go faster? Assist by grabbing her buttocks and lifting and bouncing.
Also try: She can sit astride facing you on a rocking chair. Old wooden rockers on hardwood or stone floors provide the greatest variety of good vibes.
Hot tip: There’s lots of room for creativity in this position for stimulating erogenous areas of the upper body, head, neck, and face. If she likes to have her nipples licked, go for it!
11. The Lazy Man
Benefits: Puts her in control, maintains intimacy.
Technique: Place pillows behind your back and sit on the bed with legs outstretched. She straddles your waist, feet on the bed. She then bends her knees to lower herself onto you, using one hand to direct your penis in. Just by pressing on the balls of her feet and releasing, she can raise and lower herself on your shaft as slowly or quickly as she pleases.
Also try: From this position, you both lie back into the Spider position or its more challenging variation The X.
12. David Copperfield
Benefits: This sex position is the piece de resistance for women who prefer a strong, upward stroking motion.
Technique: Place a pillow under her hips to tilt her pelvis up. Bend her knees so she can place her feet on your shoulder blades.
Also try: Amplify your oral efforts with a simple sleight-of-hand trick: While you lap away, try using your hands to push gently upward on her abdomen, stretching her skin away from her pubic bone, and helping to coax the head of her clitoris out from beneath the hood.
Hot tip: Let your tongue rest firmly and flat against the full length of her vaginal entrance, then have her move and grind against your tongue.
13. Heir to the Throne
Benefits: The ultimate sex position for oral on the go, use this to get her in the mood and help her cut loose.
Technique: Have your partner sit on a chair with her legs wide open. You take it from there. This is a good sex position for either beginning the slow build-up with loose, broad, strokes, or ending with strong suction. Your partner is able to easily guide you, and she’s able to get a full view of you between her legs, which is a turn-on for many women.
Also try: Switch to a swivel chair and turn it left and right as you hold your tongue stationary.
Hot tip: Insert your index and ring fingers and stroke in a “come hither” motion to wake up her G-spot using this sex position. With either your tongue or other hand, apply pressure to her pubic bone. This dual stimulation executed just right will send her over the edge.
14. The Pretzel
Benefits: The deep penetration of doggy-style while face to face.
Technique: Kneel and straddle her left leg while she is lying on her left side. She will bend her right leg around the right side of your waist, which will give you access to enter her vagina. For many women, rear entry hurts their backs. This sex position allows her to lounge comfortably while enjoying deep penetration.
Also try: Manually stimulate her using your fingers. Or withdraw your penis and, holding the shaft with your left hand, rub the head against her clitoris to bring her to the brink of orgasm then you can reinsert when she wants you inside her.
Hot tip: Be gentle with her clitoris. It’s more sensitive than your penis, so touch lightly at first. Some women even prefer gentle pressure around it rather than direct stimulation. Go soft, then increase speed and pressure.
Hot tip for her: And ask her to direct you, faster, slower, lighter, harder.
15. The G-Whiz
Benefits: Allows deep penetration and targeting the G-spot
Technique: She lies on her back. You kneel between her legs and raise them, resting her calves over your shoulders. Rock her in a side-to-side and up-and-down motion to bring the head and shaft of your penis in direct contact with the front wall of her vagina. Because this angle allows for deep penetration, thrust slowly at first avoid causing her discomfort.
Also try: Bring her legs down and have her place her feet on your chest in front of your shoulders. This allows her to control the tempo and depth of thrusts.
Hot tip: Notice her nearing orgasm. You do that by listening for her breath to become short and shallow. Flushed skin and slightly engorged breasts also indicate she’s nearing the peak of her arousal.
16. Man’s Best Friend
Benefits: Deep penetration and an erotic view.
Technique: This could be your next move after starting in The Flatiron sex position. Entering her from behind, you’ll be able to thrust deep so the tip of your penis touches her cervix, an often-neglected pleasure zone. But you should do this slowly and gently. Some women find it painful.
Hot tip for her: She may be able to increase the intensity of your orgasm by pushing her pelvic floor muscles outward, as if trying to squeeze something out of her vagina. This causes the vaginal walls to lower, making her G-spot more accessible.
17. The Flatiron
Benefits: Intensifies vaginal pleasure.
Technique: She lies face down on the bed, knees slightly bent and hips slightly raised. For comfort, and to increase the angle of her hips, she can place a pillow under her lower abs. You enter her from behind and keep your weight off of her by propping yourself up with your arms. This position creates a snug fit, making you feel larger to her.
Also try: You’ll last longer in this position if you switch to shallower thrusts and begin deep breathing.
Hot tip: Less friction means less stimulation—and can help you last longer. Try using a very slippery silicon-based lubricant, which may allow you to thrust longer before reaching orgasm.